Your body has just done amazing things for you. It carried your precious pearl for nine whole months, grew them to perfection and birthed your love into this world. It never ceases to amaze me what a wonder and powerful vessel we are. Now is the time to show your body thanks with a bit of love and care.
#1 Be kind to yourself/operate in state of rest
Let’s be honest, for most the ol’ “Sleep when the baby sleeps” is not always obtainable especially if this isn’t your first rodeo. Parents of two or more, you get my drift. But even if you can’t catch a lot of actual sleep, finding moments of rest can go a long way to helping your body and mind recover after birth. To obtain this I suggest things like putting off anything that isn't a priority. For example, your laundry is washed but not put away… Well, that's okay. The important part is done. Also, set up rest zones throughout the house. Each room should have a comfortable reclined spot that you can be with all the necessities at hand. Fill a caddy you can carry with you no matter where you find yourself with a water bottle, some granola bars etc., wipes, diapers and extra burp cloth. The less you have to get up, the better. Take even brief moments that you can, to just close your eyes and breathe. Resist the urge to fill your time with trivial scrolls on social media or drama filled shows or invite in guests. Focus only on what sets your mind at ease. When the time comes that you can close your eyes for a nap, try throwing on a sleep mask. The dark sends signals to your brain that it is time to sleep and if you have been in a state of rest during wake, the transition to sleep will be easier no matter the time of day.
#2 Don’t be shy to ask for help
This of course will correlate with the above. It is simple, the more you can delegate to others, the more rest you can get. So why do we complicate it? Can you have a friend set up a meal train? Could your partner prep a few healthy snacks or ready to grab in the fridge? Maybe it would be helpful to have someone come do the deep cleaning for a few months? Who could you ask to run your errands? Could a grandparent take your older kids on a playdate for an afternoon a week? There are countless ways others can help but sadly most who are willing simply won't think of them unless they are directly asked. Consider all you do in a day. How much of that can you take off your plate with some assistance from others for awhile? Don’t be shy, just ask. It is worth a try. Love yourself enough to recognize your needs. You are healing, adjusting and learning right now.
#3 Don’t forget to feed your mind and body
When the baby comes, all attention shifts. Is the baby okay? Is the baby fed? Is the baby comfortable, happy, clean, cared for? But, wait! What about you? Your needs matter and my motto is, If mom is cared for then naturally the baby will be cared for best too. Your body needs just as much nourishment and care. Think of it this way, you want what is best for your baby and you can’t give that unless you are at the very best you can be. Be sure you are taking time to eat. Often the best way to do this is with power packed nutrient rich snacks and mini meals. You may not get but short breaks between babies needs and when baby sleeps then you want to as well so get the nourishment in when you can throughout the day. I suggest prepping easy things to grab that can be ready when you are like apple slices and a scoop of peanut butter or cups of soup. This also applies to your mental health as well. Take small moments throughout the day to breathe, consider your needs and do something solely for you. What is the thing that is a must for you daily? Maybe it is a walk, coffee on the porch, taking a shower or a night time skin care routine. Be sure to find ways and ask for help to get this scheduled in your day. It will go a long way to keeping your soul satisfied.
-Megan McCurley, PostPartum Doula with Doula at Hart
